I have a strong aversion to criticism of any kind. But there are two kinds of criticism. One involves mutual trust and respect, and the other doesn’t. The one that doesn’t can be very harmful. But the one that does benefits both parties.

Being critical of someone as in often finding fault, never accepting a person for who they are, is negative and wrong. The person being criticized is an individual who should be respected for his/her differences. Yet there is always room for improvement. And sometimes… there is one person I criticize who I don’t find fault with. Actually, I respect him highly. And trust him deeply enough and feel secure enough to discuss our differences of opinion on things. For me, that is a rare thing. I may be critical of others, but rarely to their faces.

But healthy criticism must go both ways. Not only should healthy criticism show our respect and trust for the other person, but the other person should respect us, value our opinion, and trust us to come to them and not to carry our criticism to others (to discuss our disagreement with uninvolved parties behind his/her back). It must be both given and received in love to be truly effective.


About thrugracealone

I'm a country girl raised city. I prefer open windows to AC, love a good thunderstorm, and enjoy hearing the owls and seeing lightning bugs. A bit old-fashioned, maybe, I can recognize many trees by name, resent elms and weeds, wish for a large garden and canning skills, and hope someday to downsize and get a few acres in the country. I am blessed with a terrific church, a good job, a sturdy house, two cats and a yard full of strawberries and mulberries in the right season. Some of my other favorite things to do are spoiling nieces and nephews, reading, swimming, biking, long walks, and blogging, of course. One of my favorite stories is creation. My abbreviated version goes like this: 1In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth. 2Now the earth wasa formless and empty, darkness was over the surface of the deep, and the Spirit of God was hovering over the waters... And God moved... And God said... And it was very good. If God can speak to darkness, to an earth without form and void, and make something like this that we see everyday, and make it very good (and it was even better before the Fall!), He will surely make something wonderful out of the dark, void situations I sometimes find myself in. He has, and it's been very good. Two top posts: Can a Person Lose their Salvation? Baptism!

Posted on January 3, 2012, in Christianity. Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.

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